Abbreviations and internet slang

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  • On dating apps you will find abbreviations, emojis and slang terms
  • People use these to say what kind of sex or relationship they’re looking for
  • Sometimes they mean different things
  • If you don’t know what someone means, ask them to explain

Commonly used words - 0-9

0-9

  • 420: smoking weed or pot

Commonly used words - A

A

  • AFAB / AMAB: Assigned Female At Birth / Assigned Male At Birth. Commonly used for non-binary people to determine the gender assigned at birth
  • Amyl: poppers
  • Ass play: fingering, playing with dildos and other sex toys in the ass

Commonly used words - B

B

  • BB / Bare / bareback: anal sex without a condom
  • BBC: a commonly used abbreviation for ‘Big Black Cock’. Black people can find this offensive
  • BLM: Black Lives Matter, the movement against racism towards Black people
  • BDSM: this stands for 6 kinky types of sexual relationships: bondage & discipline, domination & submission, sadism & masochism
  • Bear: a large, hairy man
  • BFM: 'boyfriend material'
  • Bottom: someone who likes to get fucked. Sometimes replaced by a downward arrow

Commonly used words - C

C

  • Catfishing: misleading someone with false information, mostly online
  • CD: crossdresser, a man who enjoys dressing up as a woman
  • Chaser: someone who’s looking for a specific type. For example: a bear chaser
  • Chemsfriendly: open to drug use
  • Cisgender / cis man: someone who is not transgender / a man who was assigned male at birth
  • Clean: it can mean that you don’t have STDs, or that you douched
  • Chub / chubby: fat
  • Cut: someone who is circumcised

Commonly used words - D

D

  • Daddy: someone who is or feels like the older one in the relationship, sometimes with a protective or caretaking role
  • Diamant (emoji): sex for money, sex worker. In other countries, it might also mean crystal meth
  • Dirty: sex involving bodily excrements, usually referring to poop, sometimes also to urine (see also: watersports)
  • Discreet: someone who doesn't tell anyone that he's dating

Commonly used words - E

E

  • Edging: stopping with jacking off just before orgasm, usually to start again short after. This can make the orgasm more intense when it comes
  • Enby: non-binary person, someone who does not identify as a man or a woman

Commonly used words - F

F

Commonly used words - G

G

Commonly used words - H

H

  • HH / HnH: abbreviation for 'high & horny', looking for sex with drugs
  • Hung: someone with a large penis

Commonly used words - K

K

  • Kink: a specific type of sex or pleasure
  • Kinky: someone who enjoys special sexual things, like spanking or piss sex

Commonly used words - M

M

Commonly used words - N

N

  • N=N: see also undetectable
  • Non-binary: someone who does not identify as a man or a woman
  • NSA / No Strings Attached: sex without wanting a relationship

Commonly used words - O

O

  • Otter: hairy, slim man

Commonly used words - P

P

Commonly used words - Q

Q

  • Queer: someone who lives outside the norms of heterosexuality, man or woman

Commonly used words - S

S

  • Safe: anal sex with a condom
  • Side: someone who doesn’t need to have anal sex
  • Sissy: a man or a boy who presents a lot of characteristics that are usually considered feminine
  • Slm / slamming: injecting drugs with a needle
  • Sleazy: uninhibited sex
  • Sober: no drug use and sometimes no alcohol use
  • Spanking: to hit someone on the butt with hands or a paddle

Commonly used words - T

T

  • T / Tina: crystal meth  
  • T / testo: testosteron, the sex hormone
  • Top: the active partner, the one who fucks. Sometimes replaced by an upward arrow
  • Trans / transgender / trans man: someone who was assigned a different gender at birth than they are now, someone who was born a girl but is a man now
  • TS: transsexual. This abbreviation is old-fashioned and can be hurtful.
  • TV: transvestite, a man in feminine clothing
  • Twink: young, slim, hairless man

Commonly used words - U

U

Commonly used words - V

V

  • Versa / Versatile: someone who likes to fuck and get fucked. Sometimes replaced by left and right arrows or up and down arrows

Commonly used words - W

W

  • Wap / waus: Dutch slang term for being under the influence of drugs
  • Watersports: piss sex
  • Ws only: 'watersports only'. This means someone only likes piss sex and not other types of ‘dirty’ sex

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