Thijs (35) talks about his pee kink

Years later, now an adult and on vacation, he encountered the practice for the first time. “I was staying in a hotel and had a date with a guy I already knew. I knew he got turned on when someone peed on him.” The moment presented itself unexpectedly. “I happened to need to pee and texted him about it. He immediately got excited and said he was on his way.”

About to burst

But getting there took a little longer than planned. “Twenty minutes later, he still wasn't there, and I was really about to burst.” Eventually, he arrived at the hotel room and got into the bathtub. Thijs stood above him. “But when I wanted to pee, nothing happened. I have trouble peeing anyway when I know someone is watching.” Only after concentrating hard did I succeed. “I saw that he was really enjoying it. I found that interesting. It was intimate, because normally you're basically alone when you go to the toilet.”

'Do you know that feeling when you have such a physical connection that everything just happens naturally?'

Thijs himself wasn't immediately aroused by it. “I didn't find it dirty or weird, but I didn't necessarily find it sexy either. What stuck with me most was how intensely he experienced it.”

The other side

It wasn't until years later that he tried it himself as a passive partner. During a date, he immediately felt safe with his sex partner. “Do you know that feeling when you have such a physical connection that everything just happens naturally?” When the other person got up to pee, Thijs asked if he could watch. “I had never done that before.” Then Thijs' date asked if he wanted him to pee on Thijs.

“I thought, why not.” Naked, he got down on his knees, with one clear boundary. “Not on my face.” The moment surprised him. “The view was really hot. His body, his cock, everything was right.” It felt warm and exciting. “I started jerking off and came much faster than usual.” Then came the conclusion, uttered with a half-smile: I think you just unlocked a new kink.

Selective experimentation

Since then, Thijs has done it a few more times, but only with men he feels really comfortable with. “I don't have any fixed criteria, but I have to find someone attractive in a certain way.” Not everything appeals to him. “Videos in which people get urine in their mouths or swallow it? That's too far for me.”

'Something I really disliked as a teenager, I now sometimes find quite arousing'

Being open about his kink is sometimes difficult. “I once mentioned on Grindr that I had tried it, and someone immediately lost interest.” Since then, he first gauges how open-minded someone is. “And honestly, I can have great sex without this. It's not a requirement.”

Common sense

Thijs thinks it's important to be conscious about his health. “I think the idea that urine is sterile is a myth, but you're not likely to contract an STI if someone pees on your body while you're masturbating.” He gets tested regularly, is vaccinated against mpox and hepatitis A and B, and uses PrEP around sex.

What he finds most fascinating is how his perspective has changed. “Something I really disliked as a teenager, I now sometimes find quite arousing.” Will he discover more? “I have no idea. I didn't expect to find this arousing either.”