Sex for money

Rules for paid sex

Sex for money is also called sex work or prostitution. If you pay someone else for sex, you’re called a client. If you receive money for sex, you’re a sex worker. 

Sex for money is allowed by the law. You must always follow these rules. Even if you have sex for money only once. Not respecting these rules is a criminal offence. 

• The person who’s offering sex must be at least 18 years old. Paid sex with minors is forbidden 
• That person must also be an EU citizen or a residency permit holder
• A sex worker must be registered at the Kamer van Koophandel (the Dutch Chambre of Commerce)

This is how you can tell if someone wants money for sex

On dating apps you might see men who call themselves ‘escort’ or ‘payboy’. They will add emojis to their profile text, like cash or a diamond ring. Or they might write something on their profile like 'looking for generous' or 'nothing is for free'. Is someone looking for a ‘paydate’? That means he’s also willing to pay for sex.

Tips if you want to pay for sex

Do you want to pay someone for sex? Remember to do this:

• Make sure the person is at least 18 years old
• Make clear agreements beforehand. Tell him what kind of sex you want and agree on the price
• Paying for sex doesn’t mean that the sex worker must do what you want
• Always fuck with condoms. STDs and HIV are more common among male sex workers
• Never pressure the sex worker to have sex he doesn’t want to have. And don’t offer more money for unprotected sex 
• Be careful with drugs and alcohol. Don’t drink too much and be cautious with drugs (chems)
• Theft happens often. Don’t bring any valuables. Or hide your valuables at home

Tips if you get paid for sex

Do you want money in exchange for sex? Before meeting, remember this:

• Keep your real name, address, phone number or personal email address to yourself
• Always call your client before meeting him. Does he sound drunk or high? Or unfriendly, or aggressive? Is he not picking up? Then don’t go see him
• Tell a trusted person who you’re meeting and where. Call this person if something goes wrong
• Tell your client what kind of sex you want to have for which price. Also, tell him what you don’t want to do
• Leave your valuables at home or hide them. Clients can also steal your stuff

During the sex, remember:

• Do you feel unsafe or uncomfortable? Leave
• Always use condoms during sex. This way you can prevent HIV and lower your chances of other STDs
• Stick to the agreement, even if he insists. Or if he’s offering more money to have sex without a condom
• Be careful with drugs and alcohol

Want to know more?

Are you considering becoming a sex worker? Or are you already a sex worker and want more information about doing your job well? You can find all the information you need at Sekswerk.info.

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Staying healthy

Do you get paid for sex? The GGD helps sex workers stay healthy.

• Get tested 2 times a year for HIV and other STDs. These tests are free at the GGD
• Get a free hepatitis B vaccine from the GGD. Read more about the hepatitis B vaccination
• Take PrEP to protect yourself against HIV. Read more about PrEP

Some GGDs offer walk-in consultations for sex workers. If you visit one, you can get tested for STDs without an appointment. Find the closest GGD in your area.

Did something go wrong?

• Did the condom break during sex? Check if you need PEP. Read more about PEP
  Have you been sexually assaulted or raped? This is not your fault. The Sexual Assault Centre (Centrum Seksueel Geweld) can help you

More information and help

Do you want to read more about your rights as a sex worker? And about the rules you must follow? Check sekswerk.info

Did you enounter violence? Report it at Ugly Mugs NL! That way, you warn other sex workers about aggressive customers. And if you want, we will help you with your report to the police. You can also use this platform to check out new customers.